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New York - With the issue of sexual abuse and misconduct an unfortunately hot topic in the frum community today, many raise the connected issue of mesirah: whether reporting an alleged offender to the authorities constitutes "informing," or turning a fellow Jew over to non-Jewish hands, traditionally among the gravest of offenses.
In a December 6, 2006 lecture in Teaneck, New Jersey, Modern Orthodox leader and OU posek Rabbi Hershel Schachter laid down the law on mesirah as it pertains to reporting abuse, clarifying several misconceptions. VIN News feels Rabbi Schachter's lecture, the key points of which are reproduced below, is all the more apropos today.
* While it's technically loshon hara for victims to vent their pain or otherwise inform a parent or professional of what happened to them when specific names are mentioned, it is permitted nonetheless because it's for a "to'eles l'habah," or a positive future outcome. Children should be taught to not fear loshon hora violations by informing parents or professionals about incidents, Rabbi Schachter said.
* The prohibition of mesirah was created specifically in times of the Gemara to prevent Jews from informing greedy and corrupt governments which of their brethren were well-heeled to save them from robbery. Today, however, in the case of the authorities knowing that "I know that so-and-so is a pervert or a criminal, in such a situation the Shluchan Aruch says there's no issur of mesirah," said Rabbi Schachter, citing from Choshen Mishpat 28:4. He added that a letter sent out a by a Satmar rabbinical court many years ago was misinformed on this very source. "If you look up the chapter and verse that they quoted, it says just the opposite. Mesirah is only if the fellow is innocent. If the fellow's a criminal and the government wants to put him behind bars or whatever it may be, then it's not mesirah."
* On the issue of avaidas akum, the halachah that states that a lost object belonging to a non-Jew need not be returned—except where returning it generates a kiddush hashem, including returning "lost" unpaid taxes, in which case (at least technically) reporting a fellow Jew cheating on taxes is not mesirah.
* Removing a chillul hashem from the community by reporting a violator is not mesirah.
* However, if in the court system or prison the Jewish violator will suffer more than the law requires him to because of anti-Semitism, then it is a question of mesirah.
* Not only is mesirah not always asur, but sometimes even recommended, such as when a doctor sees that his female patient has been beaten.
* If a fellow Jew is a known public menace, since the batei dinim do not have an enforcement mechanism to stop him, he must be turned in. "We don't have the system to deal with him—if we did, we wouldn't be allowed to give him to the government."
One may not decide alone—a shaalah must be asked of a rov and/or beis din in each case.
Rabbi Shachter, however, followed up the shiur with a written explanation and summary:
The prohibition of mesirah is well known among religious Jews. The severity of this issur becomes ever so clear when we read in Shulchan Aruch that a mosser is dino ke'akum with respect to writing a sefer Torah (Yoreh Deah 281:3) and with respect to shechitah (Remah ibid 2:9). Even if the mosser is otherwise an observant individual, and is meticulous in fulfilling his religious duties, because he demonstrates his rejection of the unity of all of Klal Yisroel (by his act of mesirah), he is treated as an akum (see Rambam, Hilchos Teshuva 3:11 and Nefesh Horav pg. 235).
If, however, one is guilty of a crime, and according to the law of the land deserves a prison sentence, or will be put to death, even though according to Jewish law his punishment would not be as severe, this is not mesirah (see Ritva to Bava Metsia 83b; Dvar Avraham vol. I pg. 8). One would still not be allowed to hand this individual over to the civil authorities because this is the equivalent of returning aveidas akum, which is usually not allowed. In an instance of avoiding a chilul Hashem, just like we would be obligated to return the aveidas akum, so too we would be obligated to hand over this individual (see Rama, Choshen Mishpat 388:12).
If the non-Jewish governmental authorities know that one Jew is concealing information about another Jew in order to save him from punishment, the Shulchan Aruch (Choshen Mishpat 28:3) considers this a situation of chilul Hashem. Similarly, for many generations it was the practice that if a gneiva had occurred, and suspicion had fallen on the Jewish community, rather than allow that suspicion to hover over the entire community, the roshei hakehol, with the permission of the rabbonim, would inform the non-Jewish authorities who might possibly be the real ganav (Be'er Hagola, Choshen Mishpat 388:12).
Even if one is guilty of a crime and deserves a punishment according to the laws of the land, but due to anti-semetic attitudes he will probably suffer more than if he were a non-Jew; or, the (state) prison conditions are such that he will suffer at the hands of the other inmates (or at the hands of the guards) in a manner that is not proscribed by law, then turning the offender in would constitute mesirah, since his added suffering will be shelo kadin. However, mesirah is permitted in situations where one is a public menace (see Shach to Choshen Mishpat 388, 59), or if one is physically or psychologically harming another individual (for example, in instances of sexual abuse of children, students, campers etc., or spousal abuse) (see Shach to Choshen Mishpat ibid, 45).
The Jewish community does not have the ability to investigate these types of cases. Wherever there are raglayim ladavar that there seems to be a problem, the proper government agencies should be contacted to investigate.
Just as in other areas of halachah, one should consult a competent moreh horaah when faced with such a shayla. Just because one is knowledgeable in Yoreh Deah vol. I or one delivers a good pilpul shiur on sugyos in Nashim or Nezikin, it does not necessarily follow that that individual will be qualified to pasken on hilchos mesirah – lehakel or lehachmir.
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From: <VICKIPOLIN@aol.com>
Date: Mon, Nov 3, 2008 at 12:11 AM
Subject: Characteristics Observed In Male Sexual Abuse Victims
To: TheAwarenessCenter@yahoogroups.com
For more resources for male survivors go to:
http://www.theawarenesscenter.org/mens.html
Characteristics Observed In Male Sexual Abuse Victims
by Ken Singer, LCSW
Denial of Vulnerability
Difficulty recognizing that what happened was sexual abuse. High need for control in interactions with others. May appear stubborn and rigid for control in interactions with others and frequently engage in power struggles, or seem passive, codependent and conforming. Both are protection from feelings of vulnerability.
Confusion Regarding Sexual Orientation
Orientation is exhibited in many ways. Some men claim heterosexuality but are sexual with other men. Some homosexual men question their orientation and wonder how they might be different had they not been abused. Other men may not engage in any sexual behaviors with males or females and are unable to determine their sexual orientation.
Confusion of Emotional Needs With Sex
Needs for nurturance may be identified as sexual. Many needs may have been met through the sexual abuse and sex continues to be viewed as the only way to be cared for. Real relationships with other men and women are often seen as threatening and sexual behavior may actually be one of the few ways to relate superficially and still have some needs met. Societal norms encourage men to equate sexual prowess with personal value and discourage direct expression of emotional needs. Some men become "Don Juans" or give the impression they are "superstuds" as a way of proving to themselves and the world that they are not gay or weak because of their victimization histories.
Gender Shame
Confusion and anxiety regarding masculine identity. Extremely uncomfortable around other men. Does not like to be touched by men and often avoids situations where he may be seen unclothed. Because he does not feel part of the group, he is often isolated with few male friends. Shame is especially powerful regarding feelings about masculinity. "Real men" don't get abused, they can protect themselves. Internalized male models are shaming or nonexistent. May exhibit more feminine characteristics as an attempt to separate from negative masculine image or to avoid identifying with the male abuser.
Multiple Compulsive Behaviors
Sex, food, chemicals and work are examples of common compulsive behaviors used to satisfy an internal drive to continually push oneself to avoid feeling pain and to meet dependency needs but is not productive or helpful.
Physical and Emotional Symptoms
Hypertension and frequent chest pains. Recurring dreams or nightmares of being chased or attacked, choked or stabbed. Difficulty urinating in public restrooms. Depression and anxiety.
Pattern of Victimizing Self or Others
Most victims do not become offenders. Many dysfunctional behaviors may be seen as an attempt to feel more powerful, punish oneself or numb the unwanted feelings connected with the abuse. This may involve passive-aggressive behaviors or subtle put-downs. Some men, act out by exposing, obscene phone calling or voyeuristic activities. Anger toward self can involve suicide attempts or putting oneself in a high risk situations which could lead to injury or death without actually attempting suicide. Victim may react to a current situation as if it were similar to the childhood abuse experience. Victim feels powerless and cannot see the current situation for what it is. Coping mechanisms mimic survival means used during childhood. May actually become involved in abusive relationships as an adult that are in many ways similar to the childhood sexual abuse experience.
Boundary Transparency
Unrealistic fear that others can see their failures and vulnerability. They fear they can do nothing to protect themselves. This inability to protect self and feeling unsafe can result in difficulty establishing even minimal trust. Other reactions include anxiety, rage and withdrawal. May have a history of boundary intrusions other than sexual abuse, especially physical and emotional abuse.
Chaotic Relationships
Many difficulties around intimacy, autonomy (self-sufficiency) and commitment to a relationship. Extreme and intense swings in needs for closeness and distance with others. The need to be cared for and have dependency needs met is in conflict with fear of vulnerability and re-victimization. This behavior repeats the victim-perpetrator experience with the partner when that person alternately becomes a perpetrator and a protector.
Poorly Defined Sense of Self
Self protection has resulted in submersion of self with little internal locus of control. Behaviors are similar to codependency. Importance placed on attempts to avoid feelings of confusion and vulnerability.
**************
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From: <VICKIPOLIN@aol.com>
Date: Mon, Nov 3, 2008 at 12:11 AM
Subject: Characteristics Observed In Male Sexual Abuse Victims
To: TheAwarenessCenter@yahoogroups.com
For more resources for male survivors go to:
http://www.theawarenesscenter.org/mens.html
Characteristics Observed In Male Sexual Abuse Victims
by Ken Singer, LCSW
Denial of Vulnerability
Difficulty recognizing that what happened was sexual abuse. High need for control in interactions with others. May appear stubborn and rigid for control in interactions with others and frequently engage in power struggles, or seem passive, codependent and conforming. Both are protection from feelings of vulnerability.
Confusion Regarding Sexual Orientation
Orientation is exhibited in many ways. Some men claim heterosexuality but are sexual with other men. Some homosexual men question their orientation and wonder how they might be different had they not been abused. Other men may not engage in any sexual behaviors with males or females and are unable to determine their sexual orientation.
Confusion of Emotional Needs With Sex
Needs for nurturance may be identified as sexual. Many needs may have been met through the sexual abuse and sex continues to be viewed as the only way to be cared for. Real relationships with other men and women are often seen as threatening and sexual behavior may actually be one of the few ways to relate superficially and still have some needs met. Societal norms encourage men to equate sexual prowess with personal value and discourage direct expression of emotional needs. Some men become "Don Juans" or give the impression they are "superstuds" as a way of proving to themselves and the world that they are not gay or weak because of their victimization histories.
Gender Shame
Confusion and anxiety regarding masculine identity. Extremely uncomfortable around other men. Does not like to be touched by men and often avoids situations where he may be seen unclothed. Because he does not feel part of the group, he is often isolated with few male friends. Shame is especially powerful regarding feelings about masculinity. "Real men" don't get abused, they can protect themselves. Internalized male models are shaming or nonexistent. May exhibit more feminine characteristics as an attempt to separate from negative masculine image or to avoid identifying with the male abuser.
Multiple Compulsive Behaviors
Sex, food, chemicals and work are examples of common compulsive behaviors used to satisfy an internal drive to continually push oneself to avoid feeling pain and to meet dependency needs but is not productive or helpful.
Physical and Emotional Symptoms
Hypertension and frequent chest pains. Recurring dreams or nightmares of being chased or attacked, choked or stabbed. Difficulty urinating in public restrooms. Depression and anxiety.
Pattern of Victimizing Self or Others
Most victims do not become offenders. Many dysfunctional behaviors may be seen as an attempt to feel more powerful, punish oneself or numb the unwanted feelings connected with the abuse. This may involve passive-aggressive behaviors or subtle put-downs. Some men, act out by exposing, obscene phone calling or voyeuristic activities. Anger toward self can involve suicide attempts or putting oneself in a high risk situations which could lead to injury or death without actually attempting suicide. Victim may react to a current situation as if it were similar to the childhood abuse experience. Victim feels powerless and cannot see the current situation for what it is. Coping mechanisms mimic survival means used during childhood. May actually become involved in abusive relationships as an adult that are in many ways similar to the childhood sexual abuse experience.
Boundary Transparency
Unrealistic fear that others can see their failures and vulnerability. They fear they can do nothing to protect themselves. This inability to protect self and feeling unsafe can result in difficulty establishing even minimal trust. Other reactions include anxiety, rage and withdrawal. May have a history of boundary intrusions other than sexual abuse, especially physical and emotional abuse.
Chaotic Relationships
Many difficulties around intimacy, autonomy (self-sufficiency) and commitment to a relationship. Extreme and intense swings in needs for closeness and distance with others. The need to be cared for and have dependency needs met is in conflict with fear of vulnerability and re-victimization. This behavior repeats the victim-perpetrator experience with the partner when that person alternately becomes a perpetrator and a protector.
Poorly Defined Sense of Self
Self protection has resulted in submersion of self with little internal locus of control. Behaviors are similar to codependency. Importance placed on attempts to avoid feelings of confusion and vulnerability.
**************
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From: <VICKIPOLIN@aol.com>
Date: Mon, Nov 3, 2008 at 12:11 AM
Subject: Characteristics Observed In Male Sexual Abuse Victims
To: TheAwarenessCenter@yahoogroups.com
For more resources for male survivors go to:
http://www.theawarenesscenter.org/mens.html
Characteristics Observed In Male Sexual Abuse Victims
by Ken Singer, LCSW
Denial of Vulnerability
Difficulty recognizing that what happened was sexual abuse. High need for control in interactions with others. May appear stubborn and rigid for control in interactions with others and frequently engage in power struggles, or seem passive, codependent and conforming. Both are protection from feelings of vulnerability.
Confusion Regarding Sexual Orientation
Orientation is exhibited in many ways. Some men claim heterosexuality but are sexual with other men. Some homosexual men question their orientation and wonder how they might be different had they not been abused. Other men may not engage in any sexual behaviors with males or females and are unable to determine their sexual orientation.
Confusion of Emotional Needs With Sex
Needs for nurturance may be identified as sexual. Many needs may have been met through the sexual abuse and sex continues to be viewed as the only way to be cared for. Real relationships with other men and women are often seen as threatening and sexual behavior may actually be one of the few ways to relate superficially and still have some needs met. Societal norms encourage men to equate sexual prowess with personal value and discourage direct expression of emotional needs. Some men become "Don Juans" or give the impression they are "superstuds" as a way of proving to themselves and the world that they are not gay or weak because of their victimization histories.
Gender Shame
Confusion and anxiety regarding masculine identity. Extremely uncomfortable around other men. Does not like to be touched by men and often avoids situations where he may be seen unclothed. Because he does not feel part of the group, he is often isolated with few male friends. Shame is especially powerful regarding feelings about masculinity. "Real men" don't get abused, they can protect themselves. Internalized male models are shaming or nonexistent. May exhibit more feminine characteristics as an attempt to separate from negative masculine image or to avoid identifying with the male abuser.
Multiple Compulsive Behaviors
Sex, food, chemicals and work are examples of common compulsive behaviors used to satisfy an internal drive to continually push oneself to avoid feeling pain and to meet dependency needs but is not productive or helpful.
Physical and Emotional Symptoms
Hypertension and frequent chest pains. Recurring dreams or nightmares of being chased or attacked, choked or stabbed. Difficulty urinating in public restrooms. Depression and anxiety.
Pattern of Victimizing Self or Others
Most victims do not become offenders. Many dysfunctional behaviors may be seen as an attempt to feel more powerful, punish oneself or numb the unwanted feelings connected with the abuse. This may involve passive-aggressive behaviors or subtle put-downs. Some men, act out by exposing, obscene phone calling or voyeuristic activities. Anger toward self can involve suicide attempts or putting oneself in a high risk situations which could lead to injury or death without actually attempting suicide. Victim may react to a current situation as if it were similar to the childhood abuse experience. Victim feels powerless and cannot see the current situation for what it is. Coping mechanisms mimic survival means used during childhood. May actually become involved in abusive relationships as an adult that are in many ways similar to the childhood sexual abuse experience.
Boundary Transparency
Unrealistic fear that others can see their failures and vulnerability. They fear they can do nothing to protect themselves. This inability to protect self and feeling unsafe can result in difficulty establishing even minimal trust. Other reactions include anxiety, rage and withdrawal. May have a history of boundary intrusions other than sexual abuse, especially physical and emotional abuse.
Chaotic Relationships
Many difficulties around intimacy, autonomy (self-sufficiency) and commitment to a relationship. Extreme and intense swings in needs for closeness and distance with others. The need to be cared for and have dependency needs met is in conflict with fear of vulnerability and re-victimization. This behavior repeats the victim-perpetrator experience with the partner when that person alternately becomes a perpetrator and a protector.
Poorly Defined Sense of Self
Self protection has resulted in submersion of self with little internal locus of control. Behaviors are similar to codependency. Importance placed on attempts to avoid feelings of confusion and vulnerability.
**************
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=========================================================================From: <VICKIPOLIN@aol.com>
Date: Mon, Nov 3, 2008 at 12:11 AM
Subject: Characteristics Observed In Male Sexual Abuse Victims
To: TheAwarenessCenter@yahoogroups.com
For more resources for male survivors go to:
http://www.theawarenesscenter.org/mens.html
Characteristics Observed In Male Sexual Abuse Victims
by Ken Singer, LCSW
Denial of Vulnerability
Difficulty recognizing that what happened was sexual abuse. High need for control in interactions with others. May appear stubborn and rigid for control in interactions with others and frequently engage in power struggles, or seem passive, codependent and conforming. Both are protection from feelings of vulnerability.
Confusion Regarding Sexual Orientation
Orientation is exhibited in many ways. Some men claim heterosexuality but are sexual with other men. Some homosexual men question their orientation and wonder how they might be different had they not been abused. Other men may not engage in any sexual behaviors with males or females and are unable to determine their sexual orientation.
Confusion of Emotional Needs With Sex
Needs for nurturance may be identified as sexual. Many needs may have been met through the sexual abuse and sex continues to be viewed as the only way to be cared for. Real relationships with other men and women are often seen as threatening and sexual behavior may actually be one of the few ways to relate superficially and still have some needs met. Societal norms encourage men to equate sexual prowess with personal value and discourage direct expression of emotional needs. Some men become "Don Juans" or give the impression they are "superstuds" as a way of proving to themselves and the world that they are not gay or weak because of their victimization histories.
Gender Shame
Confusion and anxiety regarding masculine identity. Extremely uncomfortable around other men. Does not like to be touched by men and often avoids situations where he may be seen unclothed. Because he does not feel part of the group, he is often isolated with few male friends. Shame is especially powerful regarding feelings about masculinity. "Real men" don't get abused, they can protect themselves. Internalized male models are shaming or nonexistent. May exhibit more feminine characteristics as an attempt to separate from negative masculine image or to avoid identifying with the male abuser.
Multiple Compulsive Behaviors
Sex, food, chemicals and work are examples of common compulsive behaviors used to satisfy an internal drive to continually push oneself to avoid feeling pain and to meet dependency needs but is not productive or helpful.
Physical and Emotional Symptoms
Hypertension and frequent chest pains. Recurring dreams or nightmares of being chased or attacked, choked or stabbed. Difficulty urinating in public restrooms. Depression and anxiety.
Pattern of Victimizing Self or Others
Most victims do not become offenders. Many dysfunctional behaviors may be seen as an attempt to feel more powerful, punish oneself or numb the unwanted feelings connected with the abuse. This may involve passive-aggressive behaviors or subtle put-downs. Some men, act out by exposing, obscene phone calling or voyeuristic activities. Anger toward self can involve suicide attempts or putting oneself in a high risk situations which could lead to injury or death without actually attempting suicide. Victim may react to a current situation as if it were similar to the childhood abuse experience. Victim feels powerless and cannot see the current situation for what it is. Coping mechanisms mimic survival means used during childhood. May actually become involved in abusive relationships as an adult that are in many ways similar to the childhood sexual abuse experience.
Boundary Transparency
Unrealistic fear that others can see their failures and vulnerability. They fear they can do nothing to protect themselves. This inability to protect self and feeling unsafe can result in difficulty establishing even minimal trust. Other reactions include anxiety, rage and withdrawal. May have a history of boundary intrusions other than sexual abuse, especially physical and emotional abuse.
Chaotic Relationships
Many difficulties around intimacy, autonomy (self-sufficiency) and commitment to a relationship. Extreme and intense swings in needs for closeness and distance with others. The need to be cared for and have dependency needs met is in conflict with fear of vulnerability and re-victimization. This behavior repeats the victim-perpetrator experience with the partner when that person alternately becomes a perpetrator and a protector.
Poorly Defined Sense of Self
Self protection has resulted in submersion of self with little internal locus of control. Behaviors are similar to codependency. Importance placed on attempts to avoid feelings of confusion and vulnerability.
**************
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From: <VICKIPOLIN@aol.com>
Date: Mon, Nov 3, 2008 at 8:01 AM
Subject: Therapist discusses Mind Control
To: TheAwarenessCenter@yahoogroups.com
The Awareness Center, Inc.
(the international Jewish Coalition Against Sexual Abuse/Assault)
P.O. Box 65273, Baltimore, MD 21209
www.theawarenesscenter.org
443-857-5560
Survivors of child abuse have a higher tendency of getting involved in cult like groups. For this reason it's important for us to all be aware of the issues.
The following was crated by an ex-Joehovah's Witness, yet the informaiton can be applied to any "cult like group".
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NRLWzTOX4IM
For more information on cults go to: http://www.theawarenesscenter.org/cults.html
For more information on spiritual abuse go to:
http://theawarenesscenter.org/spiritualabuse.html
From: <VICKIPOLIN@aol.com>
Date: Mon, Nov 3, 2008 at 8:01 AM
Subject: Therapist discusses Mind Control
To: TheAwarenessCenter@yahoogroups.com
The Awareness Center, Inc.
(the international Jewish Coalition Against Sexual Abuse/Assault)
P.O. Box 65273, Baltimore, MD 21209
www.theawarenesscenter.org
443-857-5560
Survivors of child abuse have a higher tendency of getting involved in cult like groups. For this reason it's important for us to all be aware of the issues.
The following was crated by an ex-Joehovah's Witness, yet the informaiton can be applied to any "cult like group".
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NRLWzTOX4IM
For more information on cults go to: http://www.theawarenesscenter.org/cults.html
For more information on spiritual abuse go to:
http://theawarenesscenter.org/spiritualabuse.html
**************
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From: <VICKIPOLIN@aol.com>
Date: Mon, Nov 3, 2008 at 9:43 AM
Subject: WARNING: The New Sexual Predator
To: TheAwarenessCenter@yahoogroups.com
WARNING: The New Sexual Predator
© (2007) Vicki Polin, MA, NCC, LCPC, ATR-BC
I recently was at a seminar conducted by Robert Hugh Farley, who is a highly decorated Police Detective, Deputy United States Marshal and currently as an international child sexual exploitation consultant for INTERPOL.
The Awareness Center strongly suggest that every Jewish community sponsors a program in which Mr. Farley presents. He is definitely one of the top investigators in the world when it comes to dealing with sex crimes against children. Below are some of my notes from the seminar I attended.
When a child (or an adult) has a page on facebook or myspace.com or any of the other social networking pages they are opening their entire lives up to the world.
All one needs to do is to I googled any child's name you know to see if they have a social networking web page (such places as MySpace.com, Facebook, etc.)
When I returned home from the seminar I immediately "googled" my nieces and nephews names (who are minors). The first thing that was listed was their profiles on places like MySpace.com and facebook. When I went to those pages I clicked on "view Friends." All of my nieces and nephews friends names came up along with their pictures. I clicked on their friends pages and could view their friends names and profiles too.
Almost all of the minors who have social networking pages have their own pictures up. Some of the photographs were young girls trying to "look cute or sexy" or guys trying to look "cool."
The new sexual predator will go to social networking web pages to find their next targets. They may go through your child's profile all of your child's friends profiles and so on -- until they find minors that meet the criteria they are looking for. Both boys and girls are targets as are young adults.
One suggestion is that minors have pictures of something other then themselves (i.e., a book, a tree, art, etc.). Also it's important to make sure there is no personal information about the child's life up on the social networking pages. Every child I saw had the name of their middle school, Jr. High and high schools listed along with their graduating year up on their profiles. Most sexual predators can do math and figure out exactly how old a child is on the sites.
Most of these pages require that the child be over 18 to join. What the norm is that the child signs in as be over 18 and then changes their age once they join, or leave the age up as being over 18, yet still list their high school graduating year.
Another huge problem is that the newest trend is not for children to be lured in off of the net but by using cell phones. With today's technology, most of the newest cell phones have text messaging and WiFi connections. This new technology is not something that parents can monitor.
Kids are also using their cell phones to video tape themselves in their own homes, at sleep overs, at parties, etc. These photographs and videos are then uploaded onto their web pages and end up being shared with the world. They are basically allowing a sexual predator into their homes, schools and their personal lives.
Sexual predators are then making links to kids social networking pages, and sharing the links with their friends. This is more common when a child/teen uploads photograph sand or video's the predator may find arousing.
It is not illegal for a sexual predator to make links to these pages. It is also not illegal for a sexual predator to have nude pictures of minors, which would be considered to be "child erotica." The only time images of a minor becomes illegal or would be considered child pornography, is if there is some sort of a sexual act involved involving a minor.
It's important to realize you can't prevent your child from going on line or using a cell phone to get on line, because a minor will find a way to get on line. Often from friends homes or cell phone, the library. Sexual predators have access to minors anywhere they can get a WiFi connection.
The best bet you have in keeping minors safe is by educating children on the dangers in language they can understand. It's vitally imprint to have a good relationship with your children to keep them safe. Your children need to know they can tell you anything without feeling ashamed or embarrassed If you can tell your children to look both ways before crossing the street, it's vitally important that you warn your children that there are sexual predators out there. A sexual predator is usually not "a stranger." Minors never consider someone they meet on line as being a stranger, which is part of the problem. Our youth often feel safe chatting with anyone on line. They feel comfortable and confident because they are doing this from their own homes.
A sexual predator on line knows how to make a child feel important. They make your child feel as if they care about them and are their friend.
Another problem is that often the child feels as if the sexual predator is their "boyfriend" or "girlfriend." They "fall in love" with the offender. They often do not realize they are being abused. As in many other sex crimes they target kids who are lonely, going through a personal crisis in their lives or that of their families.
There is a growing number of offenders out there. They are calling them the "new sex offender," because of they way they lure in youth. Many of these offenders are upper class, white males who are going on line at work. The most dangerous hours for our youth is right after school they get home from school, until these new sexual predators go home from work. Basically the most dangerous hours are from 2:00 PM - 6:00 PM. Often parents are not home yet to monitor what their children are doing.
For more information on this topic contact:
Robert Hugh Farley M.S.
Consultant in Crimes Against Children
10 South LaSalle Street, Suite 1420
Chicago, Illinois USA 60603
Phone: 847-236-9134
E-Mail RHFConsultant@aol.com
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From: <VICKIPOLIN@aol.com>
Date: Mon, Nov 3, 2008 at 9:43 AM
Subject: WARNING: The New Sexual Predator
To: TheAwarenessCenter@yahoogroups.com
WARNING: The New Sexual Predator
© (2007) Vicki Polin, MA, NCC, LCPC, ATR-BC
I recently was at a seminar conducted by Robert Hugh Farley, who is a highly decorated Police Detective, Deputy United States Marshal and currently as an international child sexual exploitation consultant for INTERPOL.
The Awareness Center strongly suggest that every Jewish community sponsors a program in which Mr. Farley presents. He is definitely one of the top investigators in the world when it comes to dealing with sex crimes against children. Below are some of my notes from the seminar I attended.
When a child (or an adult) has a page on facebook or myspace.com or any of the other social networking pages they are opening their entire lives up to the world.
All one needs to do is to I googled any child's name you know to see if they have a social networking web page (such places as MySpace.com, Facebook, etc.)
When I returned home from the seminar I immediately "googled" my nieces and nephews names (who are minors). The first thing that was listed was their profiles on places like MySpace.com and facebook. When I went to those pages I clicked on "view Friends." All of my nieces and nephews friends names came up along with their pictures. I clicked on their friends pages and could view their friends names and profiles too.
Almost all of the minors who have social networking pages have their own pictures up. Some of the photographs were young girls trying to "look cute or sexy" or guys trying to look "cool."
The new sexual predator will go to social networking web pages to find their next targets. They may go through your child's profile all of your child's friends profiles and so on -- until they find minors that meet the criteria they are looking for. Both boys and girls are targets as are young adults.
One suggestion is that minors have pictures of something other then themselves (i.e., a book, a tree, art, etc.). Also it's important to make sure there is no personal information about the child's life up on the social networking pages. Every child I saw had the name of their middle school, Jr. High and high schools listed along with their graduating year up on their profiles. Most sexual predators can do math and figure out exactly how old a child is on the sites.
Most of these pages require that the child be over 18 to join. What the norm is that the child signs in as be over 18 and then changes their age once they join, or leave the age up as being over 18, yet still list their high school graduating year.
Another huge problem is that the newest trend is not for children to be lured in off of the net but by using cell phones. With today's technology, most of the newest cell phones have text messaging and WiFi connections. This new technology is not something that parents can monitor.
Kids are also using their cell phones to video tape themselves in their own homes, at sleep overs, at parties, etc. These photographs and videos are then uploaded onto their web pages and end up being shared with the world. They are basically allowing a sexual predator into their homes, schools and their personal lives.
Sexual predators are then making links to kids social networking pages, and sharing the links with their friends. This is more common when a child/teen uploads photograph sand or video's the predator may find arousing.
It is not illegal for a sexual predator to make links to these pages. It is also not illegal for a sexual predator to have nude pictures of minors, which would be considered to be "child erotica." The only time images of a minor becomes illegal or would be considered child pornography, is if there is some sort of a sexual act involved involving a minor.
It's important to realize you can't prevent your child from going on line or using a cell phone to get on line, because a minor will find a way to get on line. Often from friends homes or cell phone, the library. Sexual predators have access to minors anywhere they can get a WiFi connection.
The best bet you have in keeping minors safe is by educating children on the dangers in language they can understand. It's vitally imprint to have a good relationship with your children to keep them safe. Your children need to know they can tell you anything without feeling ashamed or embarrassed If you can tell your children to look both ways before crossing the street, it's vitally important that you warn your children that there are sexual predators out there. A sexual predator is usually not "a stranger." Minors never consider someone they meet on line as being a stranger, which is part of the problem. Our youth often feel safe chatting with anyone on line. They feel comfortable and confident because they are doing this from their own homes.
A sexual predator on line knows how to make a child feel important. They make your child feel as if they care about them and are their friend.
Another problem is that often the child feels as if the sexual predator is their "boyfriend" or "girlfriend." They "fall in love" with the offender. They often do not realize they are being abused. As in many other sex crimes they target kids who are lonely, going through a personal crisis in their lives or that of their families.
There is a growing number of offenders out there. They are calling them the "new sex offender," because of they way they lure in youth. Many of these offenders are upper class, white males who are going on line at work. The most dangerous hours for our youth is right after school they get home from school, until these new sexual predators go home from work. Basically the most dangerous hours are from 2:00 PM - 6:00 PM. Often parents are not home yet to monitor what their children are doing.
For more information on this topic contact:
Robert Hugh Farley M.S.
Consultant in Crimes Against Children
10 South LaSalle Street, Suite 1420
Chicago, Illinois USA 60603
Phone: 847-236-9134
E-Mail RHFConsultant@aol.com
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הגרי"ש אילישב פוסק שמי שאשתו הולכת בשייטל פאה נכרית היא עוברת על דת יהודית וצריך להתגרש מאשתו,
היוצא לנו מזה כי אנחנו בעולם הפוך, כל הליטווישע נשים מורידים כבר את הפאה נכרית שלהם עבור פסקו של הגרי"ש אליישב שליט"א, ואלו החסידים שרבם הקדוש רבינו הקדוש מצאנז צעק לפני יותר ממאה שנה ועוד 73 פוסקים שאסור ללכת בפאה נכרית, ולדאבונינו יש רק חלק קטן מהחסידים שמצייתים להם!!!
האם זה אינו עולם הפוך!
כַּשְׁרוּת – חָלָב – עוֹפוֹת
- שְׁחִיטַת בְּהֵמוֹת -
חֵלֶב – נְבֵילָה וּטְרֵיפָה
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NEWSLETTER OF RAV SHEIN REGARDING RUBASHKIN NEWSLETTER OF RAV SHEIN EXPOSING MANY PROBLEMS IN KASHRUT AMONG THEM RUBASHKIN THE REPORT OF RAV WEISSMANDEL: ALL THE PROBLEMS IN THE RUBASHKIN SLAUGHTERING HOUSES, WHICH THE RAV HA MACHSHIR AS OF MAPRIL 2005 HAD NOT VISITED EVEN THOOUGH HE MAKES $150,000 FOR SELLING OUT HIS NAME [AND SELLING OUT SIMPLE JEWS WHO EAT TEREFOT WITH HIS STAMP OF KASHRUT] THE SCORECARD OF RUBASHKIN: A FAILING GRADE ON KASHRUT ENGLISH HEBREW
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טראך טראך די הימעל פאלט אראפ – סודות – די לעצטע נייעס פון דעם הויפט מאכיל טריפות אין אמעריקא, מיל מארט. |
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הזיופים הכי הגדולים מימות בריאת העולם בפרשת החלב. – מדור מיוחד נקוב בשם תורת הניקור בסדר הניקור הנהוג בחוץ לארץ עם מקוריה וטעמיה. - הכתבנים האלו קבלו הון תועפות לזייף כל ספרי ניקור המקובל לנו מימות משה רבינו ע"ה עד היום הזה. – אם אתה מעוניין לדעת האמת לאמיתו יכולים לשמוע הטעיפ של אסיפת התאחדות הרבנים, ושם תראו עין בעין כל הזיופים, ולך נא ראה 120 ספרי ניקור, ותראה איך שזייפו כל הספרים, ויצא כבר קונטרס עלבונה של תורה, ושם העתיק חלק מהזיופים, עם תמונות, שאפשר בניקל לראות עין תעת עין. גם כן אפשר לשמוע הטעיפ של כ"ק מרן אדמו"ר מקלויזנבורג זי"ע, איך שבוכה בבכיות נוראות על ירידת הדור ואיך שהאכילו אותנו 50 שנה נבילות וטריפות חלב ודם. |
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רוב הטבחים שותפו של עמלק – רובאשקין המאכיל טריפות הכי הגדול בארצות הברית |
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א לעבעדיק בילד פון די געשעענישען אין דער צייט, ווען אונזער גרויסער און הייליגער רבי האט מיט מסירות נפש געקעמפט פארן קיום פון אידישקייט איבער דער גאנצער וועלט, ארויסגעגעבען דורך תלמידים וחסידים פון האלמינער רבי שליט"א, ירושלים תשמ"ט. |
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מִי יַאֲכִלֵנוּ בָּשָׂר= 669 רובאשקין = 669
(BAMIDBAR 11: 1-4)
1 And when the people (Always the people [HA AM]
refers to the Erev Rav) complained, it displeased
Hashem; and Hashem heard it; and his anger was
kindled; and the fire of Hashem burnt among them,
and consumed those who were in the outlying parts of
the camp. Tikkune Zohar Tikkun 19 THE EREV RAV ASKED FOR MEAT AND IT WAS GIVEN TO THEM [AND NOWADAYS THEY STILL CONTROL THE MEAT] And the EREV RAV asked for meat and it was given to them. And what is written? “And the meat was still between their teeth before being torn and the fury of G-d” (Bamidbar 11,33)…And the secret of this meat is “For he is also flesh” [SHAGAM HU BASSAR] (Bereshit 6:3). And this secret was left in the hands of the wise of heart…And this BASSAR [meat] in reverse is SHEBER [Broken] And on this it is written: “SHEVER RAAVON BATECHEM” [The broken famine of your houses] (Bereshit 42:19). If they are deserving then the meat is holy as it is written “MI BESSARI ECHEZE ELOKA” But if they don’t guard that BASSAR [meat] the sign of the Brit, then it will change for them to SHEBER. Tikkune Zohar Tikkun 19 |
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